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We talk a lot about second chances…about redemption, restoration, and rebuilding after failure. But what if someone never needed a second chance to begin with? What if what they needed was just one, a first chance extended with grace, belief, and opportunity?

Every person you see behind bars, battling addiction, or stuck in a cycle of poverty or poor choices started somewhere. And for many, the path that led them there wasn’t paved by recklessness. It was shaped by rejection. Doors closed. Potential overlooked. Labels applied far too early.

Not smart enough

Not stable enough

Not experienced enough

Not “our kind”

Not worth the risk

The truth is, withholding a first chance can be just as damaging as denying a second.

First chances come in many forms

A job when someone is fresh out of school with no résumé

A teacher who sees more than just behavior problems

A coach or mentor who notices potential

A boss willing to train someone instead of waiting for perfection

A neighbor who offers help instead of judgment

A system that believes in people instead of writing them off

When we don’t give people a first chance, we often leave them with no other option but survival. And survival, without support, can lead to desperation. Desperation can lead to mistakes. And those mistakes can lead to consequences that change the course of someone’s life forever.

That’s when we start talking about second chances

But by then, the damage is done

The stigma is stronger

The barriers are higher

The shame is deeper

And the opportunity? Much harder to come by

I’m not saying second chances aren’t needed. God knows they are. I’ve needed mine. Maybe you’ve needed yours too. But if we shift our focus upstream, if we start asking who’s being denied a first chance, and why, we might be able to prevent the heartache, the headlines, and the hopelessness we so often scramble to fix after the fact.

A first chance doesn’t guarantee success, but it plants a seed

It tells someone you matter

You’re capable

You belong here

You’re seen

And sometimes, that’s all it takes to change a life.